Let me tell you something that's been eating at me lately. You know that feeling when you're always the one holding the door open, but they never seem to notice you're standing there? Yeah, that's what it's like dating someone who thinks the world revolves around their schedule.
Picture this: It's Friday night, and you've planned a cozy dinner at home. You've got the pasta boiling, candles lit, and then *ping* – a text. "Something came up at work. Raincheck?" For the third time this month. But heaven forbid you're busy when they suddenly have a free moment! They expect you to drop everything like a hot potato and come running.
I've been there, and let me tell you, it's exhausting. It's like being on an emotional rollercoaster where you're always in the back seat, and they're controlling the speed. One minute you're making plans, the next you're rearranging your entire week because "something important came up." Spoiler alert: It's always important to them.
The worst part? The double standard is real, folks. When they're swamped with work, family stuff, or their latest hobby, you're expected to be understanding. "That's just how life is," they say. But when you've got a big presentation or your best friend's emergency, suddenly you're "not prioritizing the relationship."
Here's the truth bomb: Relationships are supposed to be a two-way street, not a one-person show. If you're constantly feeling like an understudy in your own love story, it might be time to ask yourself some tough questions:
- Are your needs being met, or are they collecting dust in the corner?
- Do they even notice when you make sacrifices?
- When was the last time they rearranged their schedule for you?
Look, I'm not saying people can't be busy. We're all juggling life's chaos. But there's a difference between being busy and being selectively available. If they've got time for their weekly manicure but can't squeeze in a quick coffee with you unless it's "convenient," that's not busy – that's just not caring enough.
Maybe it's time to have that uncomfortable conversation. You know, the one where you explain that your time matters too. That being in a relationship means sometimes putting someone else first, even when it's not perfectly convenient.
Because at the end of the day, love shouldn't feel like waiting in line for someone to have enough free time to notice you're there. You deserve someone who makes space in their life for you, not someone who expects you to fill the spaces they leave empty.
Just remember: You're not asking for the moon here. You're asking for basic respect and consideration. And if that's too much for them? Well, maybe it's time to find someone who understands that love isn't just about fitting someone into your schedule – it's about making them part of your priority list.
Have you ever dealt with something like this? Trust me, you're not alone. And you deserve so much better than being someone's backup plan.
Until next time,
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